All posts tagged: teenagers

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Being a mum

This is something I write about every now and then – so much of my work is with new mums and I am also a mum who rides the ever changing challenges of motherhood. I remember the early days and weeks with my first baby – the terror I felt at the pressure to get this right, to keep her alive and how overwhelmed I was by the feeling of being ill-equipped to look after my baby. I loved her but I don’t remember feeling comfortable and confident looking after her for about 3 months – I just felt lost. In the early weeks, it was the most isolating experience of my life – everyone else seemed to have answers, everyone else seemed to have babies who slept, everyone else seemed less afraid than me. At times, I felt useless and incapable. And because I was finding it so hard, I felt guilty, like I wasn’t a good enough mum because surely no-one else was struggling? But slowly my confidence did build and I started …

Tips for parenting teenagers…

Teenagers can be a challenge, and for parents it can feel like being back at square one again with hormones, friendships, attitude, pushing boundaries, working out who they are, who they want to be, social media and striving for independence but needing reassurance at the same time. My experience so far is that it is a rollercoaster of emotions, tears, worry, fear and frustration, along with love, laughter, happiness, pride and good company. I have two teenagers and when able to sit back and observe them, I love to see them interacting, learning about life, developing their beliefs and passions, learning to stand up for themselves and what they believe in. But they must also learn from their mistakes and how they are treated – friendships are important but this can hurt as much as provide happiness. Rejection is hard and so is taking responsibility for themselves and their actions. One of the hardest things as a parent is not being able to fix problems for them – as our children get older, this is something they …

Toddler Development

This is a time of huge change and development – your child is becoming an adult and is changing physically, emotionally and socially. relationships and friendships change and develop and they can be influenced more by their peers, their teachers, by social media and by youtubers than by their parents. For your child it can be a time of insecurity and isolation and for you it can be a time of conflict and of loss as your child starts to change and develop into an adult. Your teenager’s brain is still developing so they take more risks than adults, they have less self control and it can be difficult for them to read emotions – the world can be an exciting place but it can also be scary for them to learn to navigate on their own.   Physical Development a need for food and sleep acne may develop more sweat they can seem a bit clumsy   Girls still growing taller but at a slower pace – adult height may be reached by the time …

Teenage Behaviour

Teenage Behaviour – what they may be doing… arguing pushing against you and any boundaries focusing on and struggling with friends, who are more important to them being distant being secretive experimenting with their identity, who they are and what they like to do having sex they may not want to be seen in public with you developing and expressing an interest in the world thinks you don’t know anything and that you have never done anything misreading emotions and facial expressions wanting to make their own decisions sleeping more and staying up later smoking trying drugs Teenage Behaviour – what they need… no criticism or judgement on their opinions, choices and experimentations with their look to be able to come to you information and simple communication gentle planning sleep someone to listen when they need it  Teenage Behaviour – what you might need… to remember they are not rejecting you let go of control to listen to them offload to someone try not to take it personally have your own life   What are teenagers like …

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For Children & Teenagers

The need for good information, support, reassurance and classes doesn’t go away as your children get older. As Birth, Baby & Family is all about parent support and this continues as your children grow. I’m also keen to link you with more classes and services for your older children – this is being developed so I will be linking you with more classes and services. Decote Dance Academy – a range of dance classes for children and teenagers Puddle Ducks Swim Academy – for children aged 4-10 years old Branch Family Counselling – specialising in working with children aged 5 to 18 1:1 Parent Sessions with Birth, Baby & Family to focus on specific parenting issues or to focus on you as the personal challenges change