All posts tagged: mental health

A year of depression

I am writing and sharing this to support anyone who experiences depression – so you know you are not alone and so you may be able to feel less afraid of it. As 2018 comes to a close I want to share that this has been one of my most difficult years in terms of depression. It has been a low-lying, miserable depression which prevents me from believing in myself, which just sucks the life out of life. Now here’s the thing about depression, I am not unhappy – I have a lovely little life with my family and I have the best little business – I laugh, I love, I smile, I plan, I do, I hope and I cope –┬ábut this year I have also struggled, I am struggling, to stay positive, to accept me, to feel good enough. My default – like so many other people – is worthlessness and feeling useless: it can be all consuming and crippling but I am lucky, I have robust coping strategies, brilliant support and there …

Understanding & managing anxiety

Feeling anxious can be a normal part of life – when we worry about something, when we are preparing for something major but ongoing anxiety – when we can be consumed by worry, tension and fear – can be crippling. For some women, anxiety can appear in pregnancy, or it can hit as they begin their life as a new mum. It can be in response to trauma or it can just appear because maybe we feel out of control, maybe the change we are experiencing is scary and stressful and we could be in a constant state of worry. Ongoing anxiety can be hideous, it can affect how people live, think and act and it can sometimes make us feel like we are going insane. So it can be important to get some support and to know how to handle it when it hits. signs of anxiety a rapid heartbeat feeling on edge, unable to relax stomach churning dizzy or light-headed restless, unable to sit still aches and pains including headache or backache fast, …

parenting and mental health

It’s World Mental Health Day and I wanted to write something about parenting with depression and anxiety. When I am feeling ill, it’s not easy, it can make me shouty, stressed, worried and overly anxious. My perspective can be off and I second guess my instincts. I can stay awake with worry and anxiety, I am tired and I struggle to make plans because juggling is hard and I may not feel sociable. I feel more overwhelmed and less able to cope. When I am well, parenting can still be a challenge but I trust myself more, I am calmer and I am able to cope with the chaos and the noise. I worry less, I feel like I make better decisions, I have more energy, everything feels much easier and it just works. I think I am a good mum, I have been present and I have been able to make time for my kids. I am also lucky that I can function when I am depressed – I can still respond to my …