All posts tagged: anxiety

parenting and mental health

It’s World Mental Health Day and I wanted to write something about parenting with depression and anxiety. When I am feeling ill, it’s not easy, it can make me shouty, stressed, worried and overly anxious. My perspective can be off and I second guess my instincts. I can stay awake with worry and anxiety, I am tired and I struggle to make plans because juggling is hard and I may not feel sociable. I feel more overwhelmed and less able to cope. When I am well, parenting can still be a challenge but I trust myself more, I am calmer and I am able to cope with the chaos and the noise. I worry less, I feel like I make better decisions, I have more energy, everything feels much easier and it just works. I think I am a good mum, I have been present and I have been able to make time for my kids. I am also lucky that I can function when I am depressed – I can still respond to my …

Babyloss – you will survive

In the first few days and early weeks after my son died, I wished to feel normal again. I longed, not just for the pain to ease, but just to feel like myself again. It felt like I lived in a bubble, everyone around me was living their normal lives but I was in a very lonely, isolated bubble of vulnerability and pain. I have never felt pain like it – physical pain, mental pain that affected how much I could do, how much I could cope with, how much I could enjoy, how much I could focus on. I felt like I could break at any moment – each day was about forcing myself to get out of bed, to do something rather than just wallow; to do something rather than just desperately want my baby back. There was an aching in my arms for the baby I  couldn’t hold and a physical pain in my heart as it ached for what I had lost. In those early weeks I wasn’t sure how much …

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Looking After You

Whether you have a baby, toddler, older children or teenagers, chances are life is busy as a mum – with juggling responsibilities, meeting everyone’s needs and generally keeping on top of everything. As a parent you may feel overwhelmed at times, in need of some headspace, in need of a rest and a need to do something for you. You might also feel overwhelmed by your desire to get it right, to not mess up this parenting – the expectations and pressure can be enormous. Babies, children and teenagers are always developing, growing and adapting and, as such, you are always learning and adapting to the changes in your children. Getting support and reassurance about what is normal, what to expect and how to work with and manage these changes and different behaviour can make a huge difference in your confidence and ability. The challenges of being a parent are varied – children will fill us with enormous love and pride as well as enormous frustration mixed with a huge dollop of guilt and worry. …

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Parent Voice: Anxiety

Anxiety crept up on me. I didn’t expect to have mental health issues. Not when I was 37, not after I’d just about navigated the intensity of having two babies and seeing them through toddlerhood. It caught me out, and I was really cross about it. It’s difficult to accept that it’s ok not to feel great. Even if everything looks great on the outside. My internal monologue went along the lines of “stop worrying, don’t be ungrateful, there are plenty of people worse off than you”. I quickly discovered that even if you know you shouldn’t feel bad it’s absolutely possible to feel wretched. Mental health challenges don’t discriminate, anyone is fair game. This was two years ago and my life didn’t outwardly appear any different to how it looks now. If you didn’t know me very well, and I suspect even if you did, there appeared nothing out of the ordinary about my life. Anxiety: Tipping Point But I was at a tipping point with anxiety. Tipping point makes it sound extreme and …