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Managing Anxiety

I just wanted to write a little something about anxiety, managing it and living with it. Many years ago, I never really understood anxiety, I knew about stress and I knew about depression but I didn’t appreciate what anxiety was, however it has been a companion since my son died 12 years ago, a shift that occurred with grief and trauma. But anxiety can strike anyone at any time, there doesn’t have to be a big event to cause it. Anxiety can be a huge part of being a mother – with juggling, with the responsibility, with the stress of sometimes doing everything – and it can be part of life as women get older because the perimenopause is the gift that just keeps on giving. My anxiety comes and goes, there isn’t usually a specific trigger, I just start to feel anxious and I have to manage it. I could probably take medication to manage it but I choose not to because most of the time I feel well and I can handle it. …

Coping Strategies For Mums

It doesn’t matter how old our children are, parenting can be tough going at times – it could be sleep deprivation, an unsettled baby, a tantruming toddler or just meeting the demands of a baby/toddler/child/teenager. Mums often put themselves at the bottom of the list when it comes to being looked after. It can be just the way it happens – we love our kids, we look after them and their needs, we can be juggling work, we remember appointments, we can plan ahead, we can be dealing with guilt and wanting to get it right. We can be happy and fulfilled and we can be truly exhausted from mumming. All of this stuff still needs doing but what do you do for you? It doesn’t have to be anything big or expensive but every mum deserves a bit of headspace and a chance to relax and be off duty. Your you-time could be… taking a bath (on your own), reading a book, going for a walk, meeting friends, going for a run or to the gym, going …

The Menopause

Parenting and the menopause don’t go together that well! My menopause, or perimenopause because I still have periods, is unpredictable, my moods shift, I am tired and I can feel overwhelmed by juggling work, home and family. This year I have made some major changes – work has been simplified so I can focus on the sessions that make a difference; my health is more of a priority so I am eating well and walking more; and I am giving myself more downtime so there’s more life balance and a lot less stress. All of this means I am accepting and trying to take more control of life with the menopause, it also means I have more energy and more time for my children and the demands that come with parenting. I run my own business and I love my work but I need it to be more focused and less stressful so there’s less juggling, so there is less to feel overwhelmed about. A few weeks in, I feel calmer and happier. I have two teenage children who …

Managing Stress

Life’s busy with life, with juggling, with work, with worrying, with stressing, with just being busy and I’m a bit sick of it. It’s making me stressed, over-stretched and ill – I’ve been tired and anxious, with a need to relax and slow-down. So it’s time to focus on managing stress and whinging less. My loves in life are my family, my friends and my work – I’m really lucky because work never feels like work, I love what I do and who I work with. But the stress comes from trying to do too much, trying to fit too much in and when I’m stressed and tired, I can be whingy and everything feels like a chore. I don’t want to live my life this, yearning for holidays when I can just stop, I want to achieve better balance to be happy and to enjoy all the things I love day to day. The last 10 years have involved so much loss and grief and I want my happy, positive self back. The last few weeks have been …

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And breathe…

I’m a big believer in just breathing. Of course we all breathe but we don’t always control it and use it well. Stress, feeling overwhelmed, headaches, tiredness, being unable to focus, not sleeping well, digestion issues and low mood can be something we all experience and something we carry on living with because we are busy, juggling and rushing. Sometimes we need to slow down, these are all signs that maybe we need to listen and give ourselves a break. And sometimes we just need to stop and breathe because we need to get rid of stress, we need to be calm and we need to take a bit of control when we feel so overwhelmed. And it’s pretty simple to do because you know how to breathe – you just need to truly focus on it! Keep it simple… you can sit or stand put your hands on your stomach and breathe in as deeply and as comfortably as possible. and then have a long, gentle outbreath – imagine you are breathing out a …