All posts filed under: menopause

The Truth About The Menopause

Tonight’s BBC documentary The Truth About The Menopause worked with different groups of perimenopausal women to find ways of managing the symptoms, especially hot flushes. I was part of the CBT group and we completed a project over the summer in addition to the filmed session and two phone sessions with Dr Mel Smith who was running our sessions. The effects of focusing on my hot flushes, night sweats and sleep, as well as using my breathing throughout the day have made a life-changing difference to my peri-menopause symptoms. Attempting to take some control in this way, also means I have focused on more walking and exercise, as well as a healthier diet, which has also had an affect. I barely have night sweats anymore and only one or two hot flushes most days. As part of this project I also discovered that some women experience shivers as well as/instead of hot flushes and this is all about the body’s inability to regulate temperature as our hormones levels shift. Just having this knowledge has made …

Being Middle-Aged

I want to write about being a middle-aged woman, mother, wife and friend with the menopause – my experience is by no means unique, so I am sure some of my ponderings will resonate. Physically, age happens and I don’t just mean with new aches and pains, grey hair and chin hair, although that is also there. I mean with hormones and the changes that come with the peri-menopause. Functioning with sleeplessness, lack of energy, struggles with concentration and fluctuating hormones, which can make me feel on top of the world and completely worthless from one day to the next. And with this comes mental aging when a different perspective might happen – and it hits us all differently. I am at a point where I want to slow down, I want less stress, less juggling, less pressure and more settledness, more calmness and more freedom to do what I enjoy, both at work and personally. As a 46 year old woman, life can be very much about fixes – wrinkle creams, concealers, HRT, mood stabilisers, hair dye, getting into shape, dieting… …

The Menopause

Parenting and the menopause don’t go together that well! My menopause, or perimenopause because I still have periods, is unpredictable, my moods shift, I am tired and I can feel overwhelmed by juggling work, home and family. This year I have made some major changes – work has been simplified so I can focus on the sessions that make a difference; my health is more of a priority so I am eating well and walking more; and I am giving myself more downtime so there’s more life balance and a lot less stress. All of this means I am accepting and trying to take more control of life with the menopause, it also means I have more energy and more time for my children and the demands that come with parenting. I run my own business and I love my work but I need it to be more focused and less stressful so there’s less juggling, so there is less to feel overwhelmed about. A few weeks in, I feel calmer and happier. I have two teenage children who …