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Enjoy Every Second…

I will never forget the first time I heard someone say “enjoy every second with her” about my time with my daughter, who was a few weeks old. My first thought was ‘you’ve got to be fucking kidding me, enjoy her, I’m too knackered to enjoy her’ and then I felt the guilt that I wasn’t enjoying my gorgeous, tiny, precious baby. I loved her, I felt incredibly protective of her and I did everything within my power to keep her healthy, safe, alive – I kept breastfeeding when I didn’t have a clue and when I cried with every latch (thankfully the bad latch was sorted and feeding was a dream after that); I got up every hour in the night; I tried to listen to my instincts and I cuddled her and I gazed at her when she slept, although that was more relief that she wasn’t crying than of enjoyment. My first baby – who didn’t do sleep – nearly broke me. Of course I did enjoy her – when she started …

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5-12 years old – behaviour

5 years old a longer attention span becoming an expert on favourite things communicating well making more decisions about food, clothes and play can tired and emotional at times   6 years old tantrums seeks praise and reassurance doesn’t like being away from you doesn’t like criticism or getting things wrong   7 years old complaining can be dramatic more aware of feelings aware of what other people think   8 years old can be sensitive fighting with you starting to experience differences with friends aware of right and wrong   9 years old friends become important closer friends pushes back against you can show disrespect and being selfishness   10-12 years old promises are important they remember everything   what they might need… play time with you time to talk about their day and how they feel listen to them simple rules and clear boundaries as they get older praise, encouragement and positivity allow them some time and space to be independent what you might you need… to avoid arguments – pick your battles be consistent …

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Parenting & acceptance

Acceptance: willingness to tolerate a difficult situation Being a parent can be one of the most frustrating and challenging experiences – because we want to get it right, we want our children to be happy and healthy and because their behaviour can be challenging to us whether we are dealing with a sleepless baby, a tantrumming toddler or a hormonal teenager. I have been pondering parenting alot recently – based on my own experiences, comments from friends and the words from many of the parents I see at the Birth & Baby Family Centre and I reckon a key part of parenting is acceptance – acceptance of the constant learning curve, acceptance that we don’t always have or need the answers, acceptance that our child is his own person, acceptance that we often don’t have any control, acceptance that we are not doing anything wrong, acceptance that we are doing our best and acceptance that they are but a child. In our modern society we are usually desperate for solutions, we are fearful of the consequences of getting it …

A letter to my 15 year old

I can’t quite believe it but today you turn 15. It really doesn’t seem long since I was cradling you in my arms experiencing both fear at the huge responsibility of being a parent and feeling a love I had never felt before. You made me a mother and you have given me some of the happiest times of my life and now you are growing up and getting ready to experience some of the happiest moments of your life. I haven’t always been the greatest mum – I have been impatient, I have shouted, I have nagged, I have lost my temper but I have always tried my very best and I have always loved you. You have grown from a wonderful, inquisitive, energetic little girl to a beautiful, brilliant, bright and funny young woman, who I am incredibly proud of. Recently, we have had our battles, and we will again as I try to guide you, support you and parent the best way I can and, as you begin to experience the world without me, …

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5-11 year old – challenges

As your child grows, there are lots of changes and challenges for them and for you as a parent. Going from 5 years old – when kids are cute and little – to 11 years old – when kids are growing into adolescents with hormones and the beginnings of more independence. School is a big part of life during this time and that brings with it not just academic pressure but friendship issues and how different they may be from other kids. They are becoming aware of themselves, of other people and of the world. The main challenges I faced were… school – we had to keep an eye on any struggles with work, especially homework, and to get to know how they learn and needed to manage their work. Children can get lost in the school system so as a parent, I felt my role was to work with them and pick up on any potential problems. As an example, homework stresses were removed with one of my children when we asked them to make sure …