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Happy in January – taking control of the mental load

It’s most unlike me but I am happy in January – combination of being organised, focused and grateful for the simple, little things. I’m trying to change my perspective this year – less negative and more positive, appreciative, controlling what I can control and trying to let go of stress. January can be a bleak month – the weather, Christmas is done, the tax return and just the feeling of starting the treadmill of another year. And I usually struggle a bit but this year feels different. I’m trying to be more positive and focused and appreciative of the small things in life, the things that really matter – family and friends, home, health, o business I love, enjoying a good book or movie, getting out for a walk. I’m trying to silence my inner critic by taking control of it – lists and writing seem to be helping and it’s there for when imposter syndrome kicks in as well! Acceptance is a huge part of managing perspective and mental health. I am a worrier …

Prioritising straightforward birth

At some point during your pregnancy, you will need to focus on the birth of your baby – to know more about how it all works, what helps, what doesn’t, what your options are, how you can manage contractions and energy and what your strategies might be. It’s about good knowledge and practical skills, questions, realistic expectations and a good dose of feistiness when needed. This helps you and your birth partner become better prepared for labour, birth and any challenges.

Baby Sleep – and why it can be so tough

Baby sleep is a huge topic of conversation – both antenatally and postnatally. It comes up in conversations with expectant parents, who have concerns about how they are going to cope with lack of sleep, and it is a popular postnatal topic among tired parents, whose baby sleep issues are ongoing. Lack of sleep with a baby is the toughest thing to cope with for many reasons…*you are really tired*the days are long*it can feel like it is all on you*you may be feeling like you are getting something wrong*it can all feel very overwhelming and isolating*it can affect your mental health Baby sleep is a complicated issue – some babies sleep in longer chunks, and others wake more frequently. If there was a simple solution to this, we would all be doing it and it wouldn’t be an issue but a baby’s needs vary each day and sleep can easily be affected by growth spurts, needing food/comfort/reassurance, colds, teeth, reflux, wind, being uncomfortable, wanting to be near mum and just not being able to …

1:1 Sessions

1:1 sessions for parents focus on a range of issues – pregnancy, birth preparation, baby preparation, thinking ahead for your recovery and different parenting and personal challenges when your baby is here. This is a popular choice – I possess a combination of antenatal and postnatal training so I am qualified and experienced to work with you during pregnancy, for birth and when your baby is here. For Pregnancy & BirthInformation, support, strategies and to talk through: *any anxieties, your previous birth or any concerns you have *where to have your baby*birth preparation*induction preparation*caesarean preparation*baby preparation*preparing for birth again*pregnancy and birth after babyloss For You & Your BabyGetting reassurance, talking it through and developing strategies for the changes in life with babies and young children can make a huge difference to your confidence and your ability to manage the challenges. Your 1:1 can focus on:*new babies & being new parents – practical support and adjustment to life with your new baby*baby sleep *being a mum – guilt, parenting challenges, juggling, identity, *feeling overwhelmed*birth debrief*preparing to …

Comparing babies

As a postnatal practitioner it is not lost on me that many parents compare their babies with a mythical baby who sleeps and naps well, eats well, is settled, has a schedule, who is an absolute delight, leaving mums rested, happy and fulfilled. Through the decades, parents have been sold a bit of lie, leaving many of them tired, frustrated, unsupported and feeling they are getting it wrong. Babies are neither robots nor dogs to be trained, they are in a constant state of growth and development and, as such, their needs vary greatly, making them unpredictable. It is this that is normal. Biologically, babies are designed to be needy – they physically need looking after and they only have one verbal way of communicating their basic needs for food, comfort, sleep and reassurance. There are subtle body language cues but they are not always obvious and a baby’s needs can vary so much from day to day, especially in those early days and weeks. There are no easy answers or quick fixes where babies …