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Managing birth expectations

It’s a difficult issue and one which is never perfect but it’s an important issue which I try to focus on with my classes and with my writing. Some people have general expectations about birth and others are more fixed, which a specific labour/birth in mind – this is all really valid and normal. Getting the balance right can be difficult though – over the years I have spoken to make mums who have only focused on some type of hypno as their birth prep and have felt completely equipped and prepared for the reality, which could mean more challenges. Every birth practitioner has a difference perspective on this, as does every pregnant woman – some focus only on straightforward birth for fear of jinxing it by learning more about caesareans and interventions, others focus on the straightforward and the complicated. I am a well trained and experienced antenatal teacher and I know dealing with expectations will never be spot on for every expectant parent – my practice is all about knowledge, skills and assertiveness …

#tynesidebirth

I am developing a co-ordinated approach to information, feedback & experiences, suggestions, support & conversations about birth for expectant parents across Tyneside. If you are pregnant, I want you and your partner to be able to access good information and support and to benefit from honest and experienced conversation about birth and birth preparation. Pregnancy can sometimes feel isolating as you work out what are good classes to attend, what information you need to know, what’s good to read, who to follow on social media. My aim is to share a range of articles, tips, suggestions, checklists and recommendations, along with links to other sources of information and support. I will be using #tynesidebirth on Facebook and Instagram and on my website so you can find articles and get involved in the conversation. Don’t hesitate to get in touch with any questions. Janine

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Birth on TV

I don’t watch many real birth programmes on TV mainly because they upset me so much and make me angry. The ones I have seen mainly show women on a bed – with no apparent reason for being there; and it’s all bright lights, interruptions and being told what to do and then is it any surprise that each labouring woman struggles and needs assistance. Labour and birth can be bloody tough – there’s pain, there’s endurance and there needs to be the right mindset/preparation, knowledge and support for the unpredictability and the amazing intensity. Women’s needs vary so much in labour but as a mother, as a doula and as a seasoned antenatal teacher I do know what can make a difference: being listened to; being asked what you need; being treated with kindness, compassion and professionalism; a gentle birth environment so you are encouraged to move and respond to the needs of your body and your baby with active birth equipment and birth pools; softer lighting and quiet; medical staff who are part …

“Gentle Hands Please”

She stands in front of me fixing me with a dark brown and grey stare. Her eyes glinting and wet, jaw set, arm poised to strike again. Hair scraped from the back of her head falls in strands over her cheeks in uncomfortable lines, through her neat fringe, damp with tears and snot. Her small, perfect cheeks are pink with rage, her nose running, patches blotched red around her lips. Her eyes say a thousand words but those lips say none. Her arm sweeps up again in an arc and abruptly crashes down on the front right section of her forehead. The contact is hard, with meaning and force and her eyes penetrate mine, damp with tears and distress, in pain for her frustration. Her anger cuts through me and my inability to help her shakes me to my core. Her frustration is vented in this way countless times a day. She cries and screams and her hand slaps down with uncontrolled force on her own head. In public people visibly recoil as she brings …

Coaching For Parents

These are professional 1:1 sessions for you, the person behind the parent, to gain support, motivation and focus for different personal challenges while also balancing your responsibilities as a parent. This is about providing individualised, confidential and non-judgemental sessions to talk through and focus on the challenges affecting you which could include… feeling overwhelmed and in need of some thinking space stress management working towards better life balance developing effective coping strategies working through parenting and family challenges thinking through work challenges focus for decision-making focusing on what you need and what changes could be made needing clarity, focus and motivation focusing on you, to address the challenges and to boost wellbeing being the parent you want to be Why do I work parents? Being a parent can be an all-consuming job with little time left to focus on you, your own wellbeing, ambitions and the balancing act that your life may well involve. These 1:1 sessions are about focusing on your needs, while also being mindful of how they fit in with meeting the …