All posts filed under: Janine Smith

Schedule of Sessions

I work with parents during pregnancy, for birth preparation and during the early weeks & months as parents with a new baby. I provide a combination of small group and 1:1 sessions… Monday1:1 Appointments: 10am & 4pmBaby Massage: 1pmAntenatal Course: 7pm WednesdayMotherCuppa: 1pm1:1 Appointments: 10am, 4pm & 7pm ThursdaySleepy Mother Cuppa / 4th Trimester MotherCuppa: 1pmWeaning Workshop: 1pm1:1 Appointments: 10am, 4pm & 7pm Friday1:1 Appointments: 10am, 4pm & 7pmBaby Massage: 1pm Saturday1:1 Appointments: 10am & 1pm I have worked with parents since 2002 and, as a practitioner with professional training and experience, I am trusted to provide a balance of reliable knowledge, non-judgemental support and much needed reassurance. My approach is not about telling you what to do – it is to listen, to provide you with the opportunity to ask questions, it is about providing ideas and information, helping you to formulate plans and to find what works for you and for your family. The focus is on your wellbeing in pregnancy, for birth, as a parent and as you, the person behind the …

Sleepy Mother Cuppa

Having a baby is pretty hard work and sleep deprivation can be a huge part of that – it’s a very normal part of life with a baby but it can also leave you feeling like you are doing something wrong or that you are missing something. There isn’t a miracle answer for baby sleep – otherwise we’d all do it – but support, reassurance and discussing ideas can make a difference and make you feel less isolated. This is why I am introducing Sleepy Mother Cuppa to give tired mums a much needed boost. It will be an informal & relaxed session with tea, coffee and cake to talk through sleep and lack of it and discuss ideas for sleep, naps and getting more rest. It’s also about providing a safe space for you to offload and to get the support you need. It is going to run monthly to start with but I may introduce another session if that feels needed. 2020 session datesJanuary 16 – February 13 – March 12 – May …

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Surviving Babyloss

In the first few days and early weeks after my son died, I wished to feel normal again. I longed, not just for the pain to ease, but just to feel like myself again. It felt like I lived in a bubble, everyone around me was living their normal lives but I was in a very lonely, isolated bubble of vulnerability and pain. I have never felt pain like it – physical pain, mental pain that affected how much I could do, how much I could cope with, how much I could enjoy, how much I could focus on. I felt like I could break at any moment – each day was about forcing myself to get out of bed, to do something rather than just wallow; to do something rather than just desperately want my baby back. There was an aching in my arms for the baby I  couldn’t hold and a physical pain in my heart as it ached for what I had lost. In those early weeks I wasn’t sure how much …

What to say when a baby dies

Every grieving parent is different so there isn’t an accurate guide on what to do or say when a baby dies. One of the biggest comments can be “I don’t know what to say” – in my experience, be honest and say that, better than saying nothing at all. When my son died, I had so many people come up to me and just hug me, so many messages to say how sorry they were but it’s the people who crossed over the street to avoid me that stayed with me and the occasional comment which was meant well but which caused hurt. Some of the things that helped me when my baby died are: let me talk about my baby. If I am talking about my baby, please let me and please do also talk about my baby. Don’t ignore their existence because that hurts. let me cry – I need to fucking cry, it helps to get rid of some of the hurt. And sometimes I will have no choice, I will have …

Straightforward Birth – read well and work with an experienced birth practitioner

There’s so much information about birth out there, so where do you start? On Social Media…It’s worth following a few good practitioners on social media so you can gather the right information for you. Birth, Baby & FamilyInstagram: @birthbabyandfamilyFacebook: @birthbabyandfamily Evidence Based Birth Practising Midwife Journal Bump, Birth & Beyond Dr Sara Wickham Books…These are some of my favourites because of their brilliant content and the tone is just right! Your No Guilt Pregnancy Plan by Rebecca Schiller The Positive Birth Book by Milli Hill The Positive Breastfeeding Book by Amy Brown Give Birth Like A Feminist by Milli Hill Ina May’s Guide To Childbirth by Ina May Gaskin Guides…Based on evidence and experience, these guides accompany my antenatal courses.The Practical Guide to Labour & Birth by Janine Smith Not all antenatal classes are the same – work with a good birth practitioner… Good antenatal classes are worth the investment but do your research first, take a look at their website, their social media and get in touch to ask them questions. You might need …