All posts filed under: health & wellbeing

Managing Anxiety

I just wanted to write a little something about anxiety, managing it and living with it. Many years ago, I never really understood anxiety, I knew about stress and I knew about depression but I didn’t appreciate what anxiety was, however it has been a companion since my son died 12 years ago, a shift that occurred with grief and trauma. But anxiety can strike anyone at any time, there doesn’t have to be a big event to cause it. Anxiety can be a huge part of being a mother – with juggling, with the responsibility, with the stress of sometimes doing everything – and it can be part of life as women get older because the perimenopause is the gift that just keeps on giving. My anxiety comes and goes, there isn’t usually a specific trigger, I just start to feel anxious and I have to manage it. I could probably take medication to manage it but I choose not to because most of the time I feel well and I can handle it. …

Imposter Syndrome and what to do about it…

Most of us have been there – feeling like a fraud, waiting to be exposed, comparing yourself to others and being self-critical. It’s not pleasant but it is pretty common. I knew I wanted to write about this today so I did I quick bit of googling and imposter syndrome has been mentioned by Maya Angelou, Emma Watson, Jodie Foster and Meryl Streep. Sheryl Sandberg even talked about it in Lean In. So we are in good company. For me, personally, I can feel like an imposter with work. I am well trained, very experienced and good at my job as an antenatal and postnatal practitioner, as well as a writer, but I do hold myself back. I can feel like all that isn’t enough because I’m not a midwife and I’m not NCT. But I don’t want to be a midwife and, despite being NCT-trained, I chose not to work for the NCT so what is my problem? Comparing and not feeling good enough is my problem and I have been making huge steps …

Just a few words about perimenopause…

life-changing |┬ádebilitating |hormonal | unsettling |exhausting |vulnerable |depressed |anxious |brain-fog |lonely |confidence knocking |emotional | paranoid | rollercoaster | self-critical | strength |wise |old Last year was awful, this year is good – accepting the peri-menopause and it’s many and varied symptoms has made a huge difference. When I have energy and motivation, I am on fire and nothing is beyond me but when I am tired and I have brain-fog, everything is a slog. My current coping strategies are sleep, eating as well as possible, walking, good gin, curling up, being honest and talking about it. I have always been a list maker but now I write down everything, to keep me focused even when my brain is full of cotton wool. And I have a book of positivity – not as wanky as it sounds, honest! – to refer to when self-criticism kicks in and my brain tells me I’m shit at everything and it pulls me out of a wallowing funk. Despite all the change, I feel more empowered and in control …

A year of depression

I am writing and sharing this to support anyone who experiences depression – so you know you are not alone and so you may be able to feel less afraid of it. As 2018 comes to a close I want to share that this has been one of my most difficult years in terms of depression. It has been a low-lying, miserable depression which prevents me from believing in myself, which just sucks the life out of life. Now here’s the thing about depression, I am not unhappy – I have a lovely little life with my family and I have the best little business – I laugh, I love, I smile, I plan, I do, I hope and I cope –┬ábut this year I have also struggled, I am struggling, to stay positive, to accept me, to feel good enough. My default – like so many other people – is worthlessness and feeling useless: it can be all consuming and crippling but I am lucky, I have robust coping strategies, brilliant support and there …