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An observation on tiredness, juggling & being happy

God, I’m tired – this is nothing spectacular or special, most of us are tired and I’m sure we are all tired of being tired. This is not a whinge, just an observation on being busy. I just don’t have the time and the energy to do everything I want to do. On the whole I am incredibly happy – I do what I love, I live with people I love, I spend time with people I love and I am grateful for all of this and for health, for laughter and for my ability to enjoy cheap wine. But the tiredness and the endless juggling is real. Some days I feel like I am doing it all brilliantly, I am on top of the load and on other days – like today – I feel like I am falling short. I want to achieve more at work, to develop my little business but I have washing to do & floors to clean, kids to enjoy before they grow up and bugger off, a husband …

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Life with your brand new baby

 Congratulations, your baby is here and you are a parent! You are probably learning fast that this beautiful new creature doesn’t come with any instructions and you may be feeling more than a little lost. There are no easy solutions but it can be helpful to: Trust your instincts – cuddle, feed and carry your new baby to soothe and comfort. You will not be spoiling him, you will not be making a rod for your own back – you will be providing love, comfort and security.   Give yourself time to get to know your baby and time to adjust to your new life. You both need time to get to know each other, so you can get used to how your baby is communicating with you through sounds, cries, movement and behaviour.   Accept or ask for help – you do not need to be superwoman and feel that you need to do it all. If you need help or if you feel that you need a break for an hour or so – …

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Enjoy Every Second…

I will never forget the first time I heard someone say “enjoy every second with her” about my time with my daughter, who was a few weeks old. My first thought was ‘you’ve got to be fucking kidding me, enjoy her, I’m too knackered to enjoy her’ and then I felt the guilt that I wasn’t enjoying my gorgeous, tiny, precious baby. I loved her, I felt incredibly protective of her and I did everything within my power to keep her healthy, safe, alive – I kept breastfeeding when I didn’t have a clue and when I cried with every latch (thankfully the bad latch was sorted and feeding was a dream after that); I got up every hour in the night; I tried to listen to my instincts and I cuddled her and I gazed at her when she slept, although that was more relief that she wasn’t crying than of enjoyment. My first baby – who didn’t do sleep – nearly broke me. Of course I did enjoy her – when she started …

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Parenting & acceptance

Acceptance: willingness to tolerate a difficult situation Being a parent can be one of the most frustrating and challenging experiences – because we want to get it right, we want our children to be happy and healthy and because their behaviour can be challenging to us whether we are dealing with a sleepless baby, a tantrumming toddler or a hormonal teenager. I have been pondering parenting alot recently – based on my own experiences, comments from friends and the words from many of the parents I see at the Birth & Baby Family Centre and I reckon a key part of parenting is acceptance – acceptance of the constant learning curve, acceptance that we don’t always have or need the answers, acceptance that our child is his own person, acceptance that we often don’t have any control, acceptance that we are not doing anything wrong, acceptance that we are doing our best and acceptance that they are but a child. In our modern society we are usually desperate for solutions, we are fearful of the consequences of getting it …

A letter to my 15 year old

I can’t quite believe it but today you turn 15. It really doesn’t seem long since I was cradling you in my arms experiencing both fear at the huge responsibility of being a parent and feeling a love I had never felt before. You made me a mother and you have given me some of the happiest times of my life and now you are growing up and getting ready to experience some of the happiest moments of your life. I haven’t always been the greatest mum – I have been impatient, I have shouted, I have nagged, I have lost my temper but I have always tried my very best and I have always loved you. You have grown from a wonderful, inquisitive, energetic little girl to a beautiful, brilliant, bright and funny young woman, who I am incredibly proud of. Recently, we have had our battles, and we will again as I try to guide you, support you and parent the best way I can and, as you begin to experience the world without me, …