All posts filed under: being a mum

Just a few words about perimenopause…

life-changing | debilitating |hormonal | unsettling |exhausting |vulnerable |depressed |anxious |brain-fog |lonely |confidence knocking |emotional | paranoid | rollercoaster | self-critical | strength |wise |old Last year was awful, this year is good – accepting the peri-menopause and it’s many and varied symptoms has made a huge difference. When I have energy and motivation, I am on fire and nothing is beyond me but when I am tired and I have brain-fog, everything is a slog. My current coping strategies are sleep, eating as well as possible, walking, good gin, curling up, being honest and talking about it. I have always been a list maker but now I write down everything, to keep me focused even when my brain is full of cotton wool. And I have a book of positivity – not as wanky as it sounds, honest! – to refer to when self-criticism kicks in and my brain tells me I’m shit at everything and it pulls me out of a wallowing funk. Despite all the change, I feel more empowered and in control …

Coping Strategies For Mums

It doesn’t matter how old our children are, parenting can be tough going at times – it could be sleep deprivation, an unsettled baby, a tantruming toddler or just meeting the demands of a baby/toddler/child/teenager. Mums often put themselves at the bottom of the list when it comes to being looked after. It can be just the way it happens – we love our kids, we look after them and their needs, we can be juggling work, we remember appointments, we can plan ahead, we can be dealing with guilt and wanting to get it right. We can be happy and fulfilled and we can be truly exhausted from mumming. All of this stuff still needs doing but what do you do for you? It doesn’t have to be anything big or expensive but every mum deserves a bit of headspace and a chance to relax and be off duty. Your you-time could be… taking a bath (on your own), reading a book, going for a walk, meeting friends, going for a run or to the gym, going …

What’s Mother Cuppa all about?

MOTHER CUPPA is a weekly group with conversation, discussion, support and reassurance for mums with babies This is a small, friendly group for mums on maternity leave. It is about providing a comfortable and safe space for you to meet, to ease any isolation and to ask questions as you find your feet with your new baby, or as you adjust to different challenges. Discussions can include a range of issues… recovery from birth sleep & exhaustion feeding growth spurts what’s normal being a mum low mood & anxiety how tough it can be how bloody brilliant it can be how amazing you are! This little group is all about a warm welcome, a cosy and safe space with conversation and endless tea, cake and fresh coffee for parents from across Newcastle and Tyneside. It is a comfortable and relaxing group to come to if you are feeling overwhelmed or tired, if you are finding your feet with your new baby and if you would like some good support throughout the first year with your baby. Who am I? I am Janine …

Parent Voices: Enjoy Every Minute?

As my bump grew bigger and the start of maternity leave loomed, I began to hear it from acquaintances, friends and strangers: ‘Enjoy every minute’ It was as innocuous as all the other pregnancy small talk, and I didn’t think much of it as they waved me off towards motherhood with those three little words. I certainly wasn’t ‘enjoying every minute’ of pregnancy, but I was really looking forward to meeting the baby and enjoying every minute of this new adventure. Birth was swift and uncomplicated. Not something I enjoyed every minute of – but a positive experience nonetheless. Euphoria hit before the cord was even cut. This was amazing – I really was enjoying every minute, just like they promised. I was enjoying getting to know this new and mysterious creature; gazing at him; cuddling him; sharing the news. Despite the aches and pains and bleeding, I was even enjoying my post-partum body. I marvelled at what it had just done, and promised never to be critical about its wobbly bits and stretch marks. …

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Being a mum

This is something I write about every now and then – so much of my work is with new mums and I am also a mum who rides the ever changing challenges of motherhood. I remember the early days and weeks with my first baby – the terror I felt at the pressure to get this right, to keep her alive and how overwhelmed I was by the feeling of being ill-equipped to look after my baby. I loved her but I don’t remember feeling comfortable and confident looking after her for about 3 months – I just felt lost. In the early weeks, it was the most isolating experience of my life – everyone else seemed to have answers, everyone else seemed to have babies who slept, everyone else seemed less afraid than me. At times, I felt useless and incapable. And because I was finding it so hard, I felt guilty, like I wasn’t a good enough mum because surely no-one else was struggling? But slowly my confidence did build and I started …